A lot has been said about the necessity of a guru in the path of Thantra. In tantric sadhana the guru is the first and most indispensable element. Selection of the guru is the foremost item in tantric sadhana. The female guru is considered to be very powerful. Wherever there is a custom of traditional tantric initiation, the mother becomes the initiating guru. The guru is none other than the Divine Mother herself, descended into the world in order to elevate the aspirant. As one lamp is lit at the flame of another, so the divine shakti consisting of mantra is communicated from guru to disciple. However, the selection of a guru for tantric initiation is really a difficult job for the simple reason that such gurus do not make themselves known at all. Therefore, initiation into tantra depends on the guru, while the disciple has only to prepare himself. When the guru feels that the disciple is ready, then he initiates him into the tantric tradition. As such, the problem of finding a proper guru for tantric sadhana should not arise at all. When the disciple is ready, the guru will be shown The tantric guru may be a sannyasin( A Thantric follower, Like Sree Ramakrishna Paramahamsar ,sivananda saraswathi swami)or a householder, but what is Wanted is that he is proficient in his art and does not use the power for evil purposes. Although a householder guru can have the authority to impart the knowledge, yet it should not mean that one can become a guru just because he is a householder. Since the householder is accepted as a responsible member of society and has a great understanding of the average person, he is also allowed to act as a guru provided he knows the science.
In India, Sadakan(vipran/Brahman) who know this art and give initiation live the life of an average householder. However, one must remember that the married life of a Hindu sadakan, and still more that of a spiritually-minded Hindu sadakan , is glorious, disciplined and self-controlled. There is a great difference in ideals, outlooks, practices and results in the lives of a Hindu householder and an average western householder